I have always loved driving through a city at night. I look at the buildings with their lights on,
and I wonder what the story is of the people in those buildings at that
time. Is it someone working on a
cleaning crew trying to get everything done quickly so he or she can get home to
their family? Is it some harried
executive trying to finish a project or proposal? Is somebody behind one of
those windows looking out at the city as I am and thinking long thoughts? I wonder what the people in those buildings
are thinking and noticing. I wonder what
they know that they don’t even think about.
What is their experience? Where do they come from? Where would they like
to be? So many possibilities….
What do you wonder about?
What makes you curious? What do you daydream about or imagine?
Many of the clients I see have lost touch with their
curiosity. Anxiety and depression, in
particular, can quash creativity. When
we are depressed, there is no energy to find alternatives, and when we are
anxious we can get too wrapped up in the problems to find creative
solutions. When I have been in darker places
in my life, it felt as though the situation would always be that way and that
things would never change. I can always
tell when I am coming back to myself because I start wondering about things and
asking more questions. I can start to see possibilities and play with ideas in
my head.
One of the ways that therapy can help is that a therapist
can provide perspectives and possibilities at times when we struggle to come up
with our own. I find, sometimes, that
just the act of exploring a possibility helps to relieve depression. Sometimes just
knowing that there might be an alternative is a huge help. It is so easy to get caught up in what is
going on in our minds that we believe it to be Truth rather than a perspective
or a temporary situation.
How can we regain a sense of curiosity and possibility? Sometimes it helps to engage in something you
used to do as a child (playing a game, coloring, singing songs, playing with
Play Doh) when you used to have more flexibility in your mind. Sometimes it helps to take a class, academic
or otherwise, to utilize a different part of the brain. Maybe you’ve always wanted to take acting
classes or learn Chinese or swing dancing….
Getting out and getting active can help as well. When our bodies are
moving, our brains start moving, too.
Spend time with other people, particularly kids, and look at how they
see the world. Sometimes even physically
changing your perspective can help. Get
up high or down low. Go outside. Try some yoga.
Scribble on a paper for awhile, bake some meringues, or try knitting or
crocheting. None of these may sound
appealing right now, but trying some of them may still help re-engage the part
of your brain that finds possibilities and curiosity.
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